The Sea of Sameness: How to Stand Out When Every Product Looks the Same
When everyone is selling "better," nobody stands out
Here’s something I tell every founder I work with:
The majority of buyers out there? They’re not focused on buying something a little bit better than what they have. In order for someone to make a switch, with all the things they’re focused on, a “little bit better” just doesn’t cut it.
In my conversations with over 200 founders, this is one of the most common blind spots I see. They walk in, showcase feature after feature, explain why they’re 20% better than the incumbent. And the deal goes nowhere.
Why? Because the buyer who’s looking at their offering has met with ten other vendors, all claiming to be “better” in their own ways. And guess what usually wins?
Do nothing.
The status quo. The workaround they already have. The thing that’s free and familiar.
The Sea of Sameness Is Real
Let me paint the picture from the buyer’s perspective.
I’m a VP at a mid-sized company. Every week, I get hit up by 20 different vendors. They all have AI. They all promise to save me time. They all have logos from companies I’ve heard of. They all have demo videos that look polished.
And honestly? They all look the same.
Forrester’s research has documented what they call the “death of differentiation” in B2B marketing. The explosion of new tools, especially in the AI era, has created massive category confusion. Buyers can’t tell vendors apart. They lump everyone into the same bucket: “solutions that claim to solve my problem.”
When everything looks the same, the easiest choice is no choice at all.
This is what I call the sea of sameness. And if you’re a founder trying to stand out in a crowded market, you’re swimming in it whether you realize it or not.
Why Feature-Based Differentiation Fails
I meet with founders who have genuinely good products. They’ve built something that is, objectively, better than what’s out there. And they can’t understand why they’re not winning deals.
Here’s the hard truth: features can be copied in weeks.
Whatever your unique capability is today, the AI model, the integration, the workflow automation: your competitors can replicate it. Maybe not perfectly, but enough that buyers won’t see a meaningful difference.
Harvard Business Review has written extensively about the commoditization of B2B products. The result is that product alone is table stakes. It gets you in the door, but it doesn’t win the deal.
So what does?
You ARE the Product
Here’s what I’ve learned from talking with 200+ founders, and from my own years in sales at Salesforce and Outreach:
In early-stage sales, you are the product.
Think about it. At this stage, you probably don’t have:
A long track record
Hundreds of case studies
A recognized brand
An army of references
What you have is yourself. Your understanding of the problem. Your perspective on the industry. Your ability to make the buyer feel understood.
When every product looks the same, buyers choose the founder who gets them. The one who shows up with insight, not just features. The one who asks better questions than the competition.
This is your unfair advantage. And most founders don’t even realize it.
How the Best Founders Differentiate
In my conversations, I’ve noticed patterns in how the most successful founders stand out. It’s not about having a bigger feature list. It’s about how they sell.
They lead with industry perspective, not product.
The best founders don’t start by talking about what they’ve built. They start by demonstrating that they understand the buyer’s world better than anyone else.
Before a call, they research the prospect’s industry. They know the specific challenges facing that vertical. They come with a point of view, not just a pitch.
I’ve seen founders scrape a prospect’s website before a meeting, run it through analysis tools, and show up with specific observations about their business. “I noticed you’re struggling with X. Here’s what I’m seeing in the market, and here’s how companies like you are solving it.”
That’s differentiation. That’s not something a competitor can copy.
They show immediate value before asking for anything.
The founders who stand out don’t wait until after the sale to provide value. They give away insights in the sales process itself.
One founder I talked to described their approach: before every demo, they send a brief analysis of the prospect’s current approach with specific observations and recommendations. No strings attached. Just value.
By the time they get on a call, the prospect already trusts them. They’ve already proven they understand the problem. The demo becomes a formality.
They maintain momentum relentlessly.
I’ve said this before, but it bears repeating: momentum = time between calls.
When I have a meeting on Monday and my next touch is Tuesday, I feel good about that deal. When the gap is three weeks, I know it’s slipping.
The best founders don’t let gaps appear. They schedule the next meeting at the end of every call. They send follow-ups the same day. They keep the conversation moving.
This sounds simple, but most founders don’t do it. They’re afraid of being pushy. What they don’t realize is that maintaining momentum is a form of service. You’re helping the buyer move toward a decision they want to make.
The SPRINT Framework for Differentiation
I’ve developed a framework called SPRINT that helps founders assess and improve their positioning. Here’s how it applies to differentiation:
S – Speed: Can you show quick wins? But remember: speed without context equals noise. You still need to understand their situation first. That said, today’s buyers are under pressure to demonstrate results fast. If you can deliver value in weeks instead of months, that’s differentiation. Accenture research shows that speed to value is increasingly a key buying criterion.
P – Problem: Do you understand the specific problem deeply? Not the generic pain point, but the exact situation the prospect is facing? This is where your 200 (or 20, or 5) founder conversations pay off. You should know this problem better than anyone.
R – Results: Can you point to specific, quantifiable outcomes? Even if you only have a few customers, can you articulate exactly what you delivered? Vague claims don’t differentiate. Numbers do.
I – Implementation: Is your implementation fast and low-friction? Today’s buyers have smaller teams than ever. They don’t have bandwidth for long implementations. If you can make it easy, that’s a meaningful advantage.
N – Niche: This is the big one. Are you specific enough about who you serve? When Jeff Bezos started Amazon, he didn’t try to sell everything to everyone. He sold books. When Facebook launched, it was just for college students. The most successful companies I see are the ones that have carved out a very specific niche. And they own it.
T – Trust: Why should the buyer trust you over ten alternatives? This is where your personal story, your expertise, and your understanding of their problem come into play. Trust is the ultimate differentiator, and it’s impossible to copy.
When Clarity Beats Being “Better”
Here’s a counterintuitive insight that I keep coming back to:
Clear positioning beats superior product.
Let me explain. I talk to founders all the time who are frustrated because their product is genuinely better, yet they’re losing to inferior competitors. When I dig in, I usually find the same issue: the competitor has clearer positioning.
They’re easier to understand. They’re easier to explain to a boss. They fit into a recognizable category.
BCG’s research on B2B marketing confirms this: buyers are overwhelmed with options. Clarity cuts through. Complexity confuses.
If a buyer has to work hard to understand what you do and why you’re different, you’ve already lost. They’ll default to the option that’s easiest to understand, even if it’s not the best.
So stop trying to be “better.” Start trying to be clearer.
The Real Competition Is Do Nothing
I said this at the top, but I want to hammer it home: the biggest competitor you face is not another startup. It’s not the established incumbent. It’s inertia.
In my experience, the majority of deals don’t go to a competitor. They just... die. The prospect decides to stick with what they have. They prioritize a different project. They run out of bandwidth.
Salesforce data shows that modern B2B buyers are more overwhelmed than ever. They’re not just evaluating your solution. They’re evaluating whether this problem is worth solving at all, right now, compared to everything else on their plate.
When you understand this, your whole approach shifts.
You stop trying to prove you’re better than Competitor X. You start trying to prove that solving this problem is worth the effort, the risk, and the cost of change.
That’s what “what’s changed” gets at. That’s what urgency is about. And that’s ultimately what separates deals that close from deals that disappear.
Practical Tactics for Standing Out
Let me get specific about what this looks like in practice:
Before every call, research deeply. Know their industry, their competitors, their recent news. Come with a perspective, not just questions.
Open with insight, not introduction. Don’t spend the first five minutes on pleasantries and company overview. Start with something that makes them think: “Wow, this person really gets it.”
Ask the questions nobody else asks. The typical vendor asks about pain points and budget. The differentiated founder asks: “What’s changed to make solving this now matter?” “Who else needs to be involved, and what do they care about?” “What has to be true for this to be a priority next quarter?”
Create a mini case study during the sales process. Don’t just talk about what you could do. Show them what you would do. Run an analysis. Build a custom proposal. Demonstrate value before they buy.
Schedule the next meeting at the end of every meeting. Never leave a call without clarity on next steps. “When can we reconnect to discuss this further? Does Thursday work?” Momentum is your friend.
Be honest about trade-offs. This one surprises a lot of founders, but it works. If your solution isn’t the right fit for part of their problem, say so. “We’re really strong at X, but for Y you might want to look at a different approach.” This honesty builds trust. And trust is what closes deals.
Finding Your Niche: Narrow to Grow
One last thought on differentiation.
The founders I see struggling the most are usually the ones trying to be everything to everyone. They don’t want to “limit themselves” by picking a niche. They want the maximum possible TAM.
The founders I see succeeding? They’ve picked a specific problem for a specific audience, and they own it completely.
Think about it:
“We help B2B companies with sales” = sea of sameness
“We help B2B SaaS founders between $500K and $10M ARR transition from founder-led sales” = that’s a niche
The second one is smaller, but it’s infinitely more defensible. Everyone in that niche knows that this product was built for them. They trust that you understand their specific situation.
HubSpot’s research on sales trends confirms that specificity wins. The most successful sales organizations are the ones with the clearest understanding of their ideal customer.
Narrow to grow. It sounds counterintuitive, but it works.
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Frequently Asked Questions
How do I differentiate when my product really is similar to competitors?
Stop differentiating on product and start differentiating on how you sell. Show up with more insight than anyone else. Understand the prospect’s specific situation better than they expect. Deliver value during the sales process, not just after. You are the product at this stage.
What if my product really is technically better?
That’s great, but “better” is rarely enough to win. Buyers can’t always evaluate technical superiority. What they can evaluate is whether you understand their problem and whether they trust you. Lead with insight and relationship, not feature comparisons.
How do I stand out in a market with established players?
Pick a niche where the established players are too big or too slow to compete effectively. Go deep on a specific problem for a specific audience. Become the obvious choice for that narrow segment, then expand from there.
What’s more important: a great product or great sales?
Neither. What matters is great understanding of your customer’s problem. A mediocre product with deep customer insight will outsell a great product with generic positioning. The best founders have both, but if you have to choose, choose understanding.
How do I avoid the “sea of sameness” trap?
Be specific. About who you serve, about what problem you solve, about why now is the time to solve it. The more specific you are, the more you stand out. Generic positioning is invisible. Specific positioning is memorable.
What’s the biggest mistake founders make when trying to differentiate?
Leading with features. They walk in, demo everything they’ve built, and wait for the prospect to be impressed. But the prospect has seen ten demos this month. Features don’t differentiate anymore. Insight does. Understanding does. Trust does.
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